Helloooooo!
So I have a date tonight at 6pm and I feel nervous, excited and chill all at the same time lol, if that makes sence. Before any date I always seem to have the inner dialogue of how to wear my hair for the date where I still look like myself. I’ll be the first to say this, I love my natural hair and all it’s glory however I really want the focus to be me. I want him to see ME, well of course he see’s you; y’all are going on a date, right? Well, technically yes it’s a date however in my experience of dating in general but specifically in Atlanta, men like things about me and not really me. It’s either my height, career, hair (lol), skin tone or something random. All those things are cool but getting to genuinely know a potential sweetheart can be challenging.
As a forever learner I learned a few things about dating which include balance, being VERY aware of wants/needs and deal breakers. *Shout out to my therapist*
In one of our sessions we talked about identifying what I value and what falls under the ‘bye sir, get out of my life’ category. Knowing what you want is the easy part, want/needs can be tricky because as you grow your needs shift. I can think back to the guys I have dated when I was younger and and I wonder now, girl, what were you thinking?!. Well, I can tell you, at the time they gentlemen had what I wanted. That’s the thing about growth, what works at one point in your journey may not necessarily work when you transition to another phase and that’s what my experience has taught me.
In February I was a guest on the Sharvette Mitchell Radio show and it was great to share a platform to discuss what dating in 2018 is actually like. Click here to listen to the panel discussion. Let see how I apply all my teachings and also enjoy this date 😉 Have you ever struggled with balance as a young professional in Atlanta? share your thoughts, I’d love to chat!
Until next time, love, peace and kinks 🙂
-Nydia
